Practicing the 5 Steps of Compassionate Detachment
Being compassionate toward others doesn’t require us to engage in any unhealthy physical or emotional experiences a person may be having. In fact, compassion requires that we remove ourselves from their physical process, and instead support from a place where we feel stable and empowered. We can communicate that we love a person while still refusing to play a part in their drama. For instance, when someone wants to vent about a particular issue, we can listen with an open heart but still refrain from taking on their negativity, giving unsolicited advice, or trying to fix the situation. This allows us to provide loving support yet remain calm, … Read More
Let Go of Fear and Trust
Letting go is one of the most important, yet most difficult spiritual principles that we need to incorporate into our lives. Too often we brace ourselves for change instead of letting go and embracing change as an opportunity for our personal transformation. When we resist change, we … Read More
Cultivate Lightheartedness for More Joy and Inner Peace
“Love is not something that just happens to you: it is a certain special way of being alive." ~ Thomas Merton In cultivating lightheartedness, we ensure our capacity to create and sustain joy, find peace in times of turmoil, and respond rather than react to life's challenges. When … Read More
Anxiety Can Be Your Friend
Until we allow ourselves time alone to lean into our anxiety and release our pain, we may not even realize that our bodies, especially our autonomic nervous systems, hold on to pain. For example, we may have parts of our body that are numb, shallow breathing, or a nervous system in a … Read More
The Power of Having a Soul Team Around You
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined.” – Henry David Thoreau To support our own transformation, we must invite into our lives an energetic support team-people who love us unconditionally, without judging, enabling, or interfering with our … Read More
Loss: The Heartbreak and the Sacred Insights
Despite the pain it elicits, loss teaches us about the delicate balance, intensity, and richness of life. We cannot experience the pain of loss without first having experienced the joys associated with what has been lost. In the movie Shadowlands, poet Joy Gresham, in speaking about … Read More
