Debra L. Reble, PH.D. | Soul-Hearted Living http://www.debrareble.com Thu, 15 Jun 2017 00:07:33 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.7.5 Are You Taking Responsibility for Co-Creating Your Life? http://www.debrareble.com/taking-responsibility-co-creating-life/ http://www.debrareble.com/taking-responsibility-co-creating-life/#respond Wed, 14 Jun 2017 16:12:00 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=3015 In co-creating our reality, we have to accept responsibility for our thoughts, words, and choices in life. That is, we have to be “response-able”― able to respond to events, situations, and people in our lives, instead of reacting to them. It also means becoming consciously aware of our fears, beliefs, and patterns that block the manifestation of our intentions. And to co-create the life we truly want, we must compassionately let go of all that is not in alignment with our soul’s journey.

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Responsibility, co-createIn co-creating our reality, we have to accept responsibility for our thoughts, words, and choices in life. That is, we have to be “response-able”― able to respond to events, situations, and people in our lives, instead of reacting to them. It also means becoming consciously aware of our fears, beliefs, and patterns that block the manifestation of our intentions. And to co-create the life we truly want, we must compassionately let go of all that is not in alignment with our soul’s journey.

Unfortunately, many of us try to shift the burden of responsibility for our spiritual awakening onto others and don’t acknowledge the innate power we have to co-create it for ourselves. From the time we are born, we acquire, model, and develop attitudes, mind-sets, and behaviors that have nothing to do with the divine energy of love that we are.

I define love as an infinite, dynamic, all-encompassing energy source that is our divine essence. Defining love as an energy source rather than a feeling gives us a spiritual perspective on love and helps us understand that we have a responsibility for being such a source in our own lives. Our brains have no comprehension of love, but our hearts know love as an energy source we can express through inspired actions. This puts the responsibility for co-creating a loving world on us. In his book The Road Less Traveled M. Scott Peck supports this premise, stating, “Love is as love does.” So being love is being responsible for our lives.

Responding rather than reacting to life requires making more discerning choices, practicing compassionate detachment, not taking things personally, and listening to the our heart more than our head. For example, suppose you are ready to leave the house for a scheduled appointment and someone who is going with you is dawdling and not ready to go. You could react by nagging or becoming upset and feeling at the mercy of the other person’s choices. Or you could be response-able, communicating your need to be on time, maintaining your sense of humor, and then making a choice with your best interest at heart, trusting that your choice will work well. In the end you may opt to take separate cars, leave for the appointment alone, and meet the other person there without anger or blame; you are fully aware there is no right or wrong, no duty or obligation, only personal responsibility.

Although we are solely accountable for our reactions, the more we set healthy energetic boundaries, the less vulnerable we will be to the negativity of others, and the more proactive our responses will be. When we set healthy energetic boundaries and hold others accountable for their choices, we become more loving, compassionate people. And, when we take full responsibility for every choice in our own lives, we cannot be a victim, only a creator. Above all, when we set compassionate boundaries, we love and value ourselves by showing others how we wish to be treated. Then we can be response-able even in the most challenging circumstances, and attract everyone and everything we need to manifest a more fulfilling reality.

In accepting responsibility for our choices in all situations, we also circumvent the interactions that get us into self-destructive conflicts. For example, many of us have had the experience of being pulled over by a police officer for a traffic violation. We hear the siren, look in the rearview mirror, and have a sinking feeling inside. At this point, we can be response-able by opening our hearts, confidently pulling over, then, when the officer approaches the car, immediately being accountable for our actions. If we are presented with a ticket, we can graciously accept it and thank the officer for encouraging us to slow down, affirming that we energetically set up the intervention as an incentive to take better care of ourselves. Finally, we can view the situation as an opportunity to pay closer attention to our well-being. 

Recognizing that we are accountable for our lives through our choices can result in a tremendous shift in our consciousness over time. When we realize how every choice we make today defines our future and affects the future of our world, and remember that every choice we make either adds to or detracts from the overall quality of our lives and the world in which we live, we must, by necessity, make more impeccable choices in all areas of our lives.

The willingness to take responsibility for your choices allows you to take charge and be flexible in any situation, from getting a traffic ticket to experiencing a flight delay, or any other sudden change in plans. Then, instead of expecting the worst, you can respond with trust that everything is working out for the best and openness to whatever spiritual information the situation might offer.

Our spiritual development is evolving to the point where we are taking more responsibility for our choices. We are finally recognizing that we have the ability to consciously co-create our reality instead of relinquishing that power to others, our circumstances, or shirk our responsibility to make discerning choices.

If we are going to transform our world to one of peace and harmony, we must recognize that we are our own power source and accountable for our own lives. Our true power originates from within, and initiates our reality. As co-creators, we can wield this power to make soul-hearted rather than self-centered choices, and stop relinquishing our power to others or our external circumstances. When we trust our divine connection to source, and are aware of love flowing through us, we are able to channel it to support the fullest expression of ourselves, others, and our planet.

A world of love begins with us. If each of us takes responsibility for the energy we project by becoming more conscious of our intentions, thoughts, feelings, and choices, it will be possible to increase the flow of love and ultimately transform our world.

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Transitions Are Periods of Discovery, Healing, and Transformation http://www.debrareble.com/transitions-periods-discovery-healing-transformation/ http://www.debrareble.com/transitions-periods-discovery-healing-transformation/#respond Sat, 10 Jun 2017 13:46:53 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=3009 Although these transitions may make us feel that we are losing our bearings, they are actually signs that we are processing new and stored information simultaneously and expanding our conscious awareness. They can also be seen as times of gathering strength physically, mentally, and spiritually in preparation for the next step forward in life—just as it is necessary to spring up at the end of a diving board to gather momentum for a full twist into the pool.

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Transformation, Transition“Our life is an apprenticeship to the truth that around every circle another can be drawn; that there is no end in nature, but every end is a beginning, and under every deep a lower deep opens.”  ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Transitions are intense periods of discovery, self-healing, and personal transformation and open space for new possibilities and spiritual growth. From a spiritual point of view, a person’s life is a constant series of transitions: changing jobs or careers, suffering from and healing an illness, beginning or ending relationships, having a baby or facing a death in the family, and initiating or completing creative projects.

Although these transitions may make us feel that we are losing our bearings, they are actually signs that we are processing new and stored information simultaneously and expanding our conscious awareness. They can also be seen as times of gathering strength physically, mentally, and spiritually in preparation for the next step forward in life—just as it is necessary to spring up at the end of a diving board to gather momentum for a full twist into the pool.

A few years ago, I was reminded that during a transition our spirit brings in new information to prepare us for the future. For example, my husband, Doug, had presented me with a stunning, blue-violet tanzanite ring for my forty-seventh birthday while we were on vacation in Panama. Because we were traveling out of the country and needed to keep the ring safe, we affectionately started calling it “Precious.”

Six months later, I stopped by the jewelry store and had the ring cleaned while I waited. As soon as they were finished, I immediately placed the ring back on my finger, put on my leather glove, and left the store. When I arrived home, I took off my glove to admire the sparkling ring and noticed a small hairline crack inside the stone. As the day went on, the crack grew larger until it looked like the stone had shattered inside. Doug and I called the jeweler and our insurance company to ask about our options for replacing the stone.

Trusting that what was happening was not to upset but to inform me, with conscious awareness I observed the replacement process and contemplated the meaning of the incident for my life. First, the jeweler offered to replace the stone without any further charge to us. Then our insurance company sent a check to the jeweler to cover the cost of a new stone. Witnessing everything, I became convinced that the stone had imploded from the inside out as a spiritual sign of a powerful transition to come. My intuition was affirmed two weeks later when I had a suspicious mammogram that began a year-long process of self-healing and personal transformation.

The metamorphosis of the piece of jewelry ultimately foreshadowed another important transition in my life. First, I was led to replace the old stone with something new to symbolize letting go of the past and opening to the future. When the jeweler brought out a deep blue sapphire stone for me to examine, I chose it as a symbolic declaration for my future. Six months later, unbeknownst to me, my husband bought the damaged tanzanite stone from the jeweler, had it sent to a gem cutter in California, and on my forty-eighth birthday presented me with a beautiful tanzanite necklace. It was “Precious” transformed into two stones, a heart and a triangle joined together on top. Little did I know at the time that these two shapes would become the symbols for soul-hearted partnership, a concept I would channel for my book within the next year.

            The following are ways to remain positive and centered while moving through intense transitions.

  • Regard such shifts as natural life occurrences, seeing parallels in the natural world. Viewing transitions as natural allows us to act in ways that direct more of your creative energies into new possibilities for your future.
  • Walk consciously through your environment and notice where possible energy blocks exist. Observe everything and assess whether or not it serves you well and is appropriate for you in your current life circumstances. Clear your house of anyone or anything that does not align with your well-being and future intentions.
  • Ground yourself during such stressful periods when everything is in flux, you can breathe deeply; touch the center of the chest and open the heart; take a walk or work in the garden, using the elements of nature to calm you; or bathe to cleanse your energy field.

Moving through life from one transition to another without resistance, avoidance, or energy blocks allows us to open to these new possibilities and develop spiritually.

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4 Sacred Strategies to Become a Conscious Observer of Your Experience http://www.debrareble.com/4-sacred-strategies-become-conscious-observer-experience/ http://www.debrareble.com/4-sacred-strategies-become-conscious-observer-experience/#comments Fri, 26 May 2017 16:15:12 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=3002 Becoming conscious observers of your experience—your thoughts, feelings , patterns, and life circumstances—allows you to witness your life from a healthy detached perspective and assess any situation.

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Sacred StrategiesBecoming conscious observers of your experience—your thoughts, feelings , patterns, and life circumstances—allows you to witness your life from a healthy detached perspective and assess any situation. This is expanded conscious awareness and it becomes activated when you trust your connection to your divine source. Like operating the zoom lens of a camera, you can pull yourself away from any experience to access it from a more spiritual point of view.

Consciously observing your experience from an expanded viewpoint helps you gain perspective on and disengage from negative reactions such as blame, attacking, or resisting others when you feel fearful, insecure, or angry. In fact, the brain, like a camera, has filtered lenses through which you perceive your external circumstances. These filters, which come from past experience, can alter how you see and interpret new information. Such filters may distort your perception of a situation and cause you to react negatively.

In many cases, you may discover that you are not angry at the person but rather at the information you are receiving about yourself—the particular mindset, belief, or pattern triggered by the encounter. In other words, though at first it may feel like we want to kill the messenger what we really want to kill is the message. Simon Peter Fuller writes, “What angers us in another person is more often than not an unhealed aspect of ourselves. If we had already resolved that particular issue, we would not be irritated by its reflection back to us.”

In such situations, there are 4 sacred strategies you can do to uncover the unresolved issue needing to be healed.

  • Ask yourself: What physical, mental, or emotional reactions am I experiencing right now? What is this person or situation showing me about my own mindsets, beliefs, or behavioral patterns? What do I need to release?
  • You can pause or take purposeful breaks during the day to assess and release any reactions. Pay attention to any discomfort or tension in the body, listen to the information being received, and identify, any negative patterns. You can walk out of the room, set the phone down, or write a response in a letter or e-mail to send later.
  • Observe any reaction from a broader, more detached perspective, paying attention to any cues signaling that negative mindsets, beliefs, or patterns. Tune in to your reactions and see each one as an opportunity to heal an unresolved issue.
  • Separate your reaction from someone else’s so you get the healthy distance needed to avoid taking theirs personally or blaming them for yours, while staying lovingly connected and responsive. It helps to envision the person going through their own self-discovery that likely has nothing to do with us. This form of compassionate detachment increases your ability to influence difficult situations with positive energy.

In choosing to respond, rather than react by not taking another person’s issue to heart, you give them the loving space to examine the source of their own reaction and, subsequently, release them. When you provide another person with the opportunity to release their reaction, you open the door for healing.

Being a conscious observer of your experience and learning to disengage from other people’s reactions allows you to become more proactive instead of reactive, shifting your energy from negative to positive. Most of all, you can see such challenging situations as opportunities to transform your life.

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Are You a Love Ambassador? Here are the Signs You Could Be. http://www.debrareble.com/love-ambassador-signs/ Sun, 14 May 2017 00:14:47 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=2998 People who live in the flow of love are love ambassadors. They aren’t saints, prophets, or gurus maintaining an austere and monastic lifestyle. Quite the opposite, they are people like us. They usually go unnoticed until you realize how happy, joyful, and peaceful they are, even in the midst of life’s messiness. When you engage in a conversation with them, you see how positive and present they are compared to most people living at lower levels of spiritual awareness. Here are some of the energetic signs that you could be you could be.

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Love AmbassadorPeople who live in the flow of love are love ambassadors. They aren’t saints, prophets, or gurus maintaining an austere and monastic lifestyle. Quite the opposite, they are people like us. They usually go unnoticed until you realize how happy, joyful, and peaceful they are, even in the midst of life’s messiness. When you engage in a conversation with them, you see how positive and present they are compared to most people living at lower levels of spiritual awareness.

Here are eleven energetic signs you may be a love ambassador:

  1. Love ambassadors are connected to a field of divine energy that emanates from them. They consciously plug into this energy source through prayer or meditation, being in nature, or simple mindfulness. Through this connection to their source, they are in touch with their infinite nature as love, and live each day as a sacred meditation.
  2. They are committed to their personal transformation. Secure in their trust in themselves and their divine source, they let go of trying to control their lives, and instead allow them to unfold. By acknowledging the divine order that exists within them and in everything around them, they surrender any expectations of how life should be, and focus their intentions on what they want it to be.
  3. Love ambassadors live in a constant stream of gratitude. They wake up every morning with a sense of appreciation and a healthy anticipation for what the universe has in store for them. Before their feet even touch the floor, they open their hearts and give thanks for the day in front of them. They trust that no matter what happens that day, it will be a good day. You won’t hear them complaining about the little things that triggered them that day, because they accept life as it comes, and trust that they are getting exactly what they need to spiritually grow at any given moment.
  4. When faced with a person or situation that makes them irritable or uncomfortable, love ambassadors pause, open their hearts, and allow themselves to feel their vulnerability. To prevent a reaction, they responsibly notice what is triggering their emotions, and release any associated negativity before speaking or taking action. They easily forgive someone who tailgates them, leaves a mess for them to clean up, or speaks unkindly toward them.
  5. As co-creators, they guide their intentions into reality by co-navigating with their source. As they go about their day, they think and act as if their intention has already manifested. Fully open to the spiritual information that comes through their hearts, they make the discerning choices that bring their intentions into reality.
  6. You may notice that love ambassadors take great pleasure in giving and receiving; this keeps their abundance flowing and in circulation. You will see them “paying it forward” by buying coffee for someone in line behind them, or giving gifts on a whim, simply to make someone feel good. Their lives are filled with prosperity because they trust that there is more than enough to go around.
  7. As love emissaries, they continuously express their intention to love themselves and their fellow beings. When they interact with others, they acknowledge them through eye contact and a smile. People feel completely seen and heard in their presence. They listen well, accept others’ points of view, and don’t force their ideas upon others with arguments or debates.
  8. Love ambassadors have a high vibrational energy that overrides negativity with love. They are highly aware of the level of energy they bring to any moment. They trust that the simple act of putting their attention on their heart center and emitting love energy raises their vibration.
  9. They cultivate soul-hearted relationships by surrounding themselves with people who love, support, and care for them unconditionally. They create an energetic support team that listens to them without judging, enabling, or commiserating, and encourages them to trust themselves, follow their hearts, and embrace their vulnerabilities.
  10. Love envoys spend time playing, simply having fun, and celebrating being, alone or with their partner, family, or friends. They are sensuous beings, and take pleasure in the simple things in life that make their hearts sing with joyful abandon. They bring a sense of humor and silliness into every moment, and refuse to take life too seriously.
  11. They take responsibility for their vibrational footprint on the planet. They are humanly and environmentally conscious by making choices that sustain the well-being of the planet and all its inhabitants. They live consciously through making enlightened choices that serve themselves as well as others’ and the planet’s highest and greatest good.

Love is here because we are. Together, at this unprecedented time, we are here to facilitate our evolution to universal love. It’s going to take the power of our mass intention of love and every one of us being ambassadors of love to bring about this shift in the world.

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Peeling Away the Layers of Old Patterns to Reveal Your Inner Light http://www.debrareble.com/peeling-away-layers-old-patterns-reveal-inner-light/ Mon, 08 May 2017 00:16:06 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=2994 Personal transformation requires that we continuously peel away our layers. Like an onion or the Turkish pastry baklava, with its fragile phyllo dough layers, the subtle layers of our patterns must be peeled away on an ongoing basis. In fact, we generate life experiences that reveal the next layer of a pattern to peel away, a process that occurs throughout our lives and is essential to our physical, emotional, and spiritual growth.

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Inner LightPersonal transformation requires that we continuously peel away our layers. Like an onion or the Turkish pastry baklava, with its fragile phyllo dough layers, the subtle layers of our patterns must be peeled away on an ongoing basis. In fact, we generate life experiences that reveal the next layer of a pattern to peel away, a process that occurs throughout our lives and is essential to our physical, emotional, and spiritual growth. Using conscious awareness to recognize the layers of our patterns gives us the power to step outside of any situation, no matter how difficult or uncomfortable, and release our destructive reactions.

This healthy clearing process is like skin sloughing off dead cells that accumulate and block the growth of new cells. Animals, birds, and plants also move through a regenerative clearing process—cycles of shedding, molting, or loss of leaves—as a part of their natural development. Similarly, as we shed our layers, we initiate a cycle of transformation that develops spiritual clarity and leads to spiritual growth. When we recognize and release patterns as they surface, we can direct our creative energies toward shaping a more fulfilling life.

Amidst the distractions and fast pace of our lives, we don’t always notice the layers of patterns we carry since they can be disguised as anger, annoyance, or discomfort. But we can remember that spiritual tools are available to assist us whenever we deviate from the path of our true being. Like the jack we keep in the trunk of the car in case of a flat tire, these tools are within reach whenever we need them. And they operate like a cosmic cow catcher in front of a locomotive, clearing the track of anything that blocks the forward momentum of our lives.

Using our cosmic cow catcher, we can catch and release negative patterns. One such tool, useful in clearing any fear-based thought, mindset, or belief that crops up, is the mantra “Bless and release”—to be followed by a positive affirmation such as “Don’t go there” or “Break the pattern.” Give yourself permission to evaluate situations and support the release of patterns rooted in fear.

Releasing the layers of our patterns is a lifelong process because their residue never completely goes away; instead, the layers become subtler and more difficult to discern. Even when we eliminate a pattern, the brain continues to show us a phantom of it. Like a file that we have deleted from our hard drive, its energy as a virtual hologram can still surface physically, alerting us to the past and reminding us to stay true to ourselves. Fortunately, we can reduce its charge by acknowledging our awareness of it, saying, whenever it surfaces, “Hello, pattern, here you are again” and perceiving it only as a phantom of the past. 

As the residue of old patterns reveals itself to us, it can prompt us to free ourselves from the past. For example, my second husband and I shared an account number with a grocery store incentive program to earn points toward free gas. As I stopped for gas one afternoon seven years after our divorce, I tried to use my card as always, only to learn that the points in my account had been recently redeemed. Thinking the card had been stolen, I called the customer service manager, who proceeded to explain that the account had been accessed by my ex-husband. It soon dawned on me that this experience offered me an opportunity to forgive the past and clean up the unfinished business from my second marriage by taking my name off the account.

To move forward in our lives, it is imperative to clear lives of anyone or anything that does not align with our vision of future health and happiness. Because residue of patterns can be lurking anywhere in our physical environment, it is necessary to thoroughly evaluate our surroundings for old items inappropriate to our true being that may be blocking our energy. For example, if you open a desk drawer and see papers, photos, or gifts from a previous relationship, regard it as a cue to keep anything you cherish and discard the rest. As if holding an open house at a residence for sale, it is beneficial to set a date for inspecting your living quarters to evaluate your belongings, deciding which items to keep, move to a different place, or release and eliminate.

Learning how to peel away layers of our patterns assists us in embarking on the life we have always envisioned. Instead of becoming aggravated each time we meet up with a pattern, we can clear the track of this pattern that no longer serves us and see our true self and future potential.

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Embracing the Pauses That Arise on Your Spiritual Journey http://www.debrareble.com/embracing-pauses-arise-spiritual-journey/ http://www.debrareble.com/embracing-pauses-arise-spiritual-journey/#comments Thu, 27 Apr 2017 12:47:51 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=2989 There are times when we feel that we are spinning our wheels, going backwards, or stuck in terms of our personal/spiritual growth. How can it be that we work so hard on our spiritual development only to uncover deeper pockets pain in our hearts? Why is it, when we think we have finally cleared our “stuff,” we find more subtle layers of patterns revealed to us? This begs the question so many of us want to know: Are we There Yet? and If not, When? However, we must realize that spiritual transformation requires a commitment for the long haul-constant personal evolution over a lifetime.

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JourneyDo you remember when you were a child traveling to a destination and it seemed to take forever? You may have relentlessly said, “Are we there yet, Are we there yet?” until you arrived. Sometimes you may feel frustrated, disheartened, and even at a standstill along your spiritual journey. With all the “heart work” you’ve already done, you want to hurry up and get there without any more spiritual detours or backtracking.

There are times when we feel that we are spinning our wheels, going backwards, or stuck in terms of our personal/spiritual growth. How can it be that we work so hard on our spiritual development only to uncover deeper pockets pain in our hearts? Why is it, when we think we have finally cleared our “stuff,” we find more subtle layers of patterns revealed to us? This begs the question so many of us want to know: Are we There Yet? and If not, When? However, we must realize that spiritual transformation requires a commitment for the long haul-constant personal evolution over a lifetime.

Our spiritual transformation is not a goal that can be attained, but an ongoing progression. We are often seduced into thinking that once we have experienced a personal breakthrough we no longer need to focus on change. We become complacent and allow our momentary feeling of gratification to become a pink bubble enveloping us in false feelings of security and triumph. This is especially true following a period of major personal growth. Like Glenda, the good witch of the north in The Wizard of Oz, we try to remain inside this bubble of illusion, ignoring the guidance of spirit telling us that we still have a spiritual journey ahead. Yet, remaining inside this pink bubble and resisting change only creates conditions in which old patterns can surface and arrests further personal transformation.

Our personal transformation ebbs and flows with periods of intense forward movement which give way to periods of transitional pauses. In these moments we may feel discouraged; however, we must remind ourselves that we don’t ever really go backward. We may be pausing momentarily because there is a new obstacle in our path, or a new layer of a pattern to clear, or a relationship to complete, but the spiritual work we have done cannot be undone. Every step on our path is meaningful, even the ones that seem to take us backward are a forward step. Sometimes an intense growth spurt requires that we rest for a period of time to fully integrate the new positive energies that have awakened, opened and are becoming available to us.

Nurture a kind, patient, and loving, relationship with yourself and you will set the groundwork for a lifelong journey of spiritual transformation. Trust yourself and your connection to source, listen to the voice of your heart, and make intentions for a more fulfilling life. Let go of the life you have chosen until now so you can cocreate the life you want in your present-future. With conscious awareness, witness how spirit guides you to opportunities and choices that result in a life based less on fear and insecurity, and more on spiritual transformation. Once you have spiritually transformed, you can never go backwards. Remember, you may be resting or revisiting issues that seem old, and may feel stuck, but trust that you have already chosen the next step forward on our path.

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Take Time for Yourself to Replenish Your Soul http://www.debrareble.com/take-time-replenish-soul/ Fri, 21 Apr 2017 19:59:49 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=2986 A balanced life begins from within and radiates outward to all aspects of your life. So taking time to be with yourself is at the core of creating and sustaining alignment with your heart, your being and your soul’s journey.

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ReplenishCherishing time alone with yourself is beneficial to your health, happiness and well-being. It also gives you the opportunity to tune in, reflect and cultivate self-awareness so you can bring your life into alignment with your true essence. Spending time alone assists you in nurturing a relationship with yourself which is key to creating a balanced and fulfilled life.

As difficult as it is in your busy life to take time to be alone, you must give yourself permission to recharge, rejuvenate and restore and push the restart button. Solitude and introspection will assist you in understanding yourself more and tuning in to your connection with a divine source. When you are alone, you can hear your own inner wisdom without distraction and care for yourself in ways that you aren’t able to when you are with other people. Time alone gives you the necessary break from the “have tos” of your brain and allow you to tune in to the “want tos” of your heart. In sacred space, you can begin to focus and tend to your own needs .

First, make an effort to nurture an introspective relationship with yourself. If you find that taking time alone is challenging, try starting with a small dose each day. Just begin with five minutes at the beginning and end of each day. Each day, try to amp it up by a minute or more until you reach an hour. Once you practice being alone, you will find it comes more naturally in time.

Next, spend time every day in quiet reflection whether walking in nature, sitting in a garden, soaking in a tub, looking out of the window or journaling your innermost thoughts and feelings. Create this sacred space to go within, listen to your innermost feelings and discover your center.

Finally, when sitting quietly touch the center of your chest and direct your attention from your head to your heart. Bring your focus to the inhale and exhale of your breathing. Breathe in light and love and feel your heart expand and then, exhale negative thoughts and emotions. Observe the ricochet of thoughts and let them move through your awareness. Then, focus your attention to your heart again.

A balanced life begins from within and radiates outward to all aspects of your life. So taking time to be with yourself is at the core of creating and sustaining alignment with your heart, your being and your soul’s journey.

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5 Sacred Steps to Strengthen Your Energetic Boundaries http://www.debrareble.com/5-sacred-steps-strengthen-energetic-boundaries/ http://www.debrareble.com/5-sacred-steps-strengthen-energetic-boundaries/#comments Thu, 06 Apr 2017 13:15:17 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=2979 Feeling energetically drained? You may need to look at your energetic boundaries. All of our relationships are energetic exchanges. When our energetic boundaries are in place, the resulting flow is growth promoting, first for ourselves and then for others. Without such boundaries, however, we can easily exhaust ourselves of energy or inadvertently take on the unwanted energies of others, outcomes that impede our growth and damage our relationships. Try one or more of the 5 sacred steps I share here to strengthen your energetic boundaries. Making this commitment to yourself benefits everyone in your world. So breathe, let go, and let it all be.

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Energetic BoundariesCreating healthy energetic boundaries is key to producing a positive flow of energy in our relationships. At heart, all our relationships are energetic exchanges—opportunities to become a conduit for life force energy. When energetic boundaries are in place, the resulting flow is growth promoting, first for ourselves and then for others. Without such boundaries, however, we can easily exhaust ourselves of energy or inadvertently take on the unwanted energies of others, outcomes that impede our growth and damage our relationships.

Establishing energetic boundaries with those we love is not easy, because we are especially sensitive to the “pull” they have on our hearts. Wanting their happiness perhaps more than they want it themselves, for instance, we can become so involved in trying to generate it for them that the effort takes its toll on us physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. At its best, the energetic drain makes us vulnerable to feelings of compassion fatigue. At its worst, it can stress our heart center, resulting in exhaustion, depression, or medical conditions such as increased blood pressure or cardiac disease.

Creating healthy boundaries with more casual friends, associates, coworkers, and even strangers is just as important. In relationships without such boundaries in place, it is common to feel something akin to the biological concept of osmosis, in which molecules pass in one direction or another across a permeable cell membrane. Some highly sensitive individuals who are unaware of the importance of establishing boundaries typically struggle to keep their energy from bleeding into the energy fields of people around them—or vice versa, strive to prevent other people’s energy from infiltrating their energy field. For instance, have you ever felt yourself taking on the emotions of others as if they were your own, or being sucked dry of emotion in the presence of “energy vampires”?

The long-term consequences of engaging in relationships without energetic boundaries in place can be pronounced. Many people, for example, start out in loving relationships, or professional or casual ones, as healthy caregivers. But if they are attracted to a “victim”—someone needing to be taken care of—and do not create healthy energetic boundaries, they may end up taking care of the person without receiving much in return. A caregiver who then begins taking responsibility for the victim’s life fosters the victim’s chronic dependency on them, along with other enabling behaviors. Taking responsibility for another person’s life, after all, impedes the person’s willingness to help themselves. In such circumstances, when there is no positive exchange of energy within the relationship, caregivers can become resentful and controlling caretakers.

If you are a caregiver who has slipped into the role of self-sacrificing caretaker, you may not at first be aware of the shift. You will know things have changed if you now feel a need to be needed or to fix this person or rescue them, or if you think you might be distracting yourself from your own insecurities and vulnerabilities. For a brief time as caretakers we may feel more secure, powerful, and in control of our lives, when in fact this false sense of confidence only prevents us from preciously caring for ourselves.

As a caregiver with healthy energetic boundaries in place, you will be able to open your heart compassionately in balanced detachment and maintain a positive flow of energy with others without suffering with them. To create healthy energetic boundaries, practice these 5 sacred steps:

  • Recite a mantra to yourself, or say “Namaste” or “bless and release” to dissolve negative energy emanating from a situation. Not knowing what they require for their personal growth, accept that they are cocreating the life situations for this to happen.
  • Exercise balanced detachment by opening your heart in loving compassion for the “being” of others while simultaneously removing yourself from their unhealthy physical and emotional processes. For example, when someone wants to vent their feelings with you, prepare to be a sounding board by listening with an open heart and refrain from taking on their negative processes, giving unsolicited advice, or trying to fix the situation.
  • Recognize when you are vulnerable to absorbing negative energy. (The stronger your reaction is to a person, pattern, or situation, the more deep-seated your sensitivity to it may be.) Before engaging in a potentially vulnerable interaction, breathe deeply, open your heart, and release all reactivity, thereby establishing a healthy physical, emotional, and spiritual separation.
  • Focus on directing positive energy into your encounters with others. Bless someone who cuts in front of you while driving or in line at the grocery store. Recite a mantra to yourself, or say “Namaste” or “bless and release” to dissolve negative energy emanating from a situation.
  • Surround yourself with positive people who listen well, respond meaningfully, and support you unconditionally. Move beyond dualistic patterns of light/wrong, good/bad, and win/lose; acknowledge others’ points of view; love them even when you disagree with them or hold a different perspective.

Just realizing that our energies are as important as those of our loved ones, family, friends, and coworkers can encourage us to develop a loving, caring relationship with ourselves and protect it through the creation of energetic boundaries. In honoring our needs for personal time and engaging in activities that restore and inspire us, we acquire more vitality and stamina to energetically serve others.

Making this commitment to yourself benefits everyone in your world. So breathe, let go, and let it all be.

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The Spiritual Practice of Letting Go http://www.debrareble.com/spiritual-practice-letting-go/ http://www.debrareble.com/spiritual-practice-letting-go/#comments Sun, 26 Mar 2017 17:34:03 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=2974 Last week with a heavy heart, I said goodbye to my next door neighbors, dear friends, and soul family, Dan, Ada, and my surrogate dogs, Stormy and Misty. For six years, we shared yards, puppies, meals, and lives together always being there for each other. Too often we brace ourselves for change instead of letting go and embracing change as an opportunity to spiritually grow. When we release anyone or anything, we unleash a flow of divine energy to support new creative space and our transformation.

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Spiritual“When letting go is called for, if we have not learned to do so, we suffer greatly, and when we get to the end of our lives, we may have a crash course.” ~ Jack Kornfield

Last week with a heavy heart, I said goodbye to my next door neighbors, dear friends, and soul family, Dan, Ada, and my surrogate dogs, Stormy and Misty.

For six years, we shared yards, puppies, meals, and lives together always being there for each other. Through the gate we made in the fence to connect our yards, we connected our hearts and families. Instead of creating division between our properties, we created cohesion. We created sacred community!

Too often we brace ourselves for change instead of letting go and embracing change as an opportunity to spiritually grow. When we release anyone or anything, we unleash a flow of divine energy to support new creative space and our transformation. Whether we experience it as a tsunami or a gentle wave, each of us is up for life-altering shift at these times.

As much as I will miss them, saying goodbye is actually saying hello. With this ending comes a new beginning for all of us. I wish them well and all the blessings as they begin their new chapter in Gainesville, Florida.

Letting go is one of the most important, yet most difficult spiritual principles that we are awakening to at this time. Like any art, it takes an open loving heart, expanded awareness, and sustained practice to become masterful. It also requires surrounding ourselves with the people and environments that support us releasing what is necessary in a healthy and positive way. Most of all, letting go requires trust in ourselves and our connection to source for it to become an essential element in our lives such as the air we breathe.

Many people have asked me, “How do I let go? My answer is simple-we have to let go into trust. Letting go and trust go hand in hand as one doesn’t exist without the other. It’s easy to move on when we have the road map right in front of us; yet, many of us struggle to let go of a relationship, a job or our life as we’ve known it when we have to trust the compass within us. Our inner GPS system of trust is our safety net, however, this safety net isn’t a white fluffy pillow that we fall back on in familiar comfort. Rather it is a deep sense of connection to a higher power whatever that happens to be for us and then accessing this source through our heart.

We begin by letting go of our negative thoughts, fears and expectations moment to moment which brings us into a state of expanded awareness or presence. It takes more than deep breaths to let go; it requires strength of trust and courage of the heart. Ultimately, we must trust that letting go is about the completion of life cycles and thus, signals a beginning more than an end.

We have a choice in every moment to let go into trust.

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From Soul Mates to Soul-Hearted Partners http://www.debrareble.com/soul-mates-soul-hearted-partners/ Thu, 09 Feb 2017 16:20:55 +0000 http://www.debrareble.com/?p=2956 Soul-hearted relationships are between two or more individuals―whether a couple, a family, friends, or an entire community―connected heart to heart and soul to soul, and share an alchemy of love energy.

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Soul MatesWhen we fall in love, we get a glimpse of our lover’s soul. When we flow in love, all impediments fall away, and their soul is all we see. To fall in love is magical; to flow in love is mystical. When we flow in love with another person, we engage in the ultimate dance of soul-hearted partnership, sharing our joy, passion, and exuberance for life. The unceasing flow of love that we exude affects how we wake up in the morning, carry ourselves, handle disappointment, give and receive love, and sustain our soul connection.

We should not assume that there is only one soul mate for each person and we have to seek them out to be happy. Rather, there are thousands of soul-connections with whom we can interact over a lifetime. Upon encountering any person with whom we have such a connection, we instantly are drawn to them, and experience an energetic connection through our thoughts, feelings, and bodily responses. We may not see each other for long periods of time, but our bond remains forever. Soul mates appear in our lives to assist us with our soul’s progression. They enhance our lives by providing insights, unconditional love, and spiritual assistance. Most importantly, we attract such soul-connected people into our lives by being our own soul mate, committed to doing the heart-centered spiritual work that it takes to stay true to our soul’s journey.

Most of us have the capability to love someone; however, to love and connect with them on a heart and soul level takes it up a few spiritual notches. A soul-hearted partner is a soul mate with whom we develop and sustain intimacy― not just at the soul level, but on all levels: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. While a soul mate is like a diamond in the rough with its sparkle of potential, a soul-hearted partner is a diamond that has been cut and polished to bring out its brilliance and placed in a four pronged setting of love, trust, intimacy, and full self-expression. All soul-hearted partners are soul mates; yet not all soul mates become soul-hearted partners. Some become lifelong best friends or inspirational guides; others fade out of our lives once they’ve bestowed the gifts they came to give us.

Soul-hearted relationships are two or more individuals ―whether a couple, a family, friends, or an entire community―connected heart to heart and soul to soul, and share an alchemy of love energy. With each person operating at their utmost soul potential, contributing to the power of this stream, it flows unimpeded. The soul-hearted partners assist each other in growing spiritually and living in congruence with their souls’ journeys. In such a relationship, each individual is celebrated for who they truly are—a radiant soul on a dynamic spiritual journey. Not only do they have the freedom to pursue their passions, follow their hearts, and express their vulnerable selves, they also have the inspiration and support to do so, due to the increased energy available to them. With such energetic support, obstacles crumble, fears dissipate, and self-expression surges forth beyond anything they had ever imagined. Like popcorn, the kernels of their divine potential are able to burst forth through the nurturing of each other’s being. 

Cultivating such soul-hearted relationships takes effort and a spiritual commitment by both partners. As a whole, relationships provide us with numerous opportunities for self-realization by inspiring us to expand our conscious awareness, address our vulnerabilities, and spiritually progress beyond what we can achieve alone. When both partners are actively pursuing their own spiritual growth, they offer each other a commitment to be the best they can be. By recognizing and releasing the individual patterns and energy blocks that threaten to disrupt the positive flow of our energy, we become more self-realized and increasingly responsive to ourselves, our partner, and our relationship. The mantra for this kind of relationship is: “I am whole and complete in myself, and I offer that to you.” Or as John Legend sings in “All of Me,” “Give your all to me, and I’ll give my all to you.”

The opening to love and connection that we can experience with a soul-hearted partner is something for which all human beings strive. To attract such loving and connected relationships into our lives, we must first embody the love and connection we seek. We do this by expressing genuine love in our every encounter so that the positive energy stream we generate makes each moment of our lives a loving meditation.

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