Transforming Loss into Love

Debra Reble Transforming Loss into Love“Earth has one angel less and heaven one more, since yesterday.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne

Despite the deep pain it elicits, loss teaches us about the delicate balance, intensity, and richness of life. We cannot experience the pain of loss without first having experienced the joys associated with what has been lost. In the movie Shadowlands, poet Joy Gresham, in speaking about her impending death to author C. S. Lewis, expresses, “The greater the love, the deeper the sorrow and the longer it will take to work through it. That’s the deal.” Simply,

      As I embrace the untimely death of my beloved soul dog, Cammi, I feel both a great love and a deep sorrow in my heart. However, that is the “deal” when I consciously entered into a loving relationship here on earth with her. Through our heart-centered connection, I am reminded that our relationship transcends the physical and energetically resides in the sacred space of soul. I can best love, honor and respect our soulful connection by transforming my grief into love. Moreover, I can channel the energy unleashed by her death by putting her powerful light to positive use. One way is to let that divine energy as love pour out to those I care for, whose friendships I cherish and to the betterment of humanity.

    The loss of Cammi or any deep loss breaks open our hearts; hence, we feel “broken-hearted.” As painful as it is, being broken-hearted is the way for us to connect to love and what is deepest within us. It allows us to embrace what we hold dear. Within the center of our grief, we discover what is most precious to us. For me that is being a loving presence.

     Our heartbreak also connects us to the collective loss we have experienced in our lives and reveals wounds that are not healed. It gives us the opportunity to release our unresolved pain. Like stripping away layers of paint to reveal handcrafted woodwork, we can peel away the layers of pain through transforming it into something exquisite…into love. 

     Acknowledging the positive side to loss doesn’t numb the pain for it’s the pain itself that breaks us open to deeper love and spiritual healing. The pain lets us know that life is fragile and we must take precious care of ourselves-to sit with our feelings until they release before we move on. Time may ease the pain of loss, but it’s being fully present with your heartbreak that opens us to self-healing and personal transformation. So we must be gentle, kind and compassionate with ourselves as we transform our pain into a loving vibration for a higher good. We will emerge on the other side of our pain stronger and lighter for all we have experienced. 

      Transforming our loss into love allows us to let go of the past, better appreciate the present and harness this energy to create a more positive future. It challenges us to embrace these natural life cycles as a series of births and deaths that ultimately lead to our spiritual progression. It begs the question: “How will I live?” As Henri Frederic Amiel states, “Life is short and we have never too much time for gladdening the hearts of those who are travelling the journey with us. Oh, be swift to love, make haste to be kind.” Through Cammi’s example of unconditional love, I can become a more kind and compassionate partner, a more patient and loving parent, a more attentive and devoted friend and a more tolerant and accepting human being. I can channel my loss into healing our world of racism, abuse, and hatred. As she resonated love with her presence, I can be a resonating field of energy through my thoughts, words and actions. I can become a love activist in our love-starved world.


This pure love and trust empowers us to let go and lean into our emotional pain and create a monumental shift in our lives.

        My dear sweet Cammi, You’ll be forever with me as a paw print on my heart.



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