“When you are immune to the opinions & actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Miguel Ruiz
When we learn to transcend being triggered, we support our soul’s evolution. We’ve all been triggered by others at one time or another. Whether we are triggered physically or emotionally, it’s part of being human. Yet, these are evolutionary opportunities for awakening and spiritual growth. When we can remain calm in the midst of any storm, we will have mastered the strength of transcendence.
You have physical and emotional triggers that alert you to what’s going on within you. Your body always knows and actually shows you where there’s underlying trauma, a self-sabotaging pattern, or emotional pain to be released. Whether it’s a person or an unexpected situation, it can trigger unresolved pain that you haven’t fully healed. Although the reaction may seem to come out of the blue; the pain has been buried in your subconscious for years. Even when you think you’ve worked through such pain, there can be subtler layers that surface to be healed.
You hold the power to transcend rather than react to anyone or anything, a power you never lose as long as you live. This energetic power to transcend being triggered comes from your heart (soul) whereas reacting comes from your head (ego). Every person or situation in life―positive, or challenging―is an opportunity to become free of fear, to open your heart, and receive the spiritual information you need to progress on your soul’s journey.
How do you transcend being triggered by others? Especially those closest to you? Here are 3 steps:
1.Recognize Your Triggers. Recognize when you are vulnerable to anything that triggers past trauma or an unhealed wound. The stronger your reaction is to a person or situation, the deeper your emotional pain. When you experience an emotional trigger, pause, breathe deeply, and drop down into your heart. Allow yourself to feel your feelings deeply. Gently ask yourself: What’s am I feeling in this moment? and When have I felt this before?
Just giving yourself permission to feel your pain, sit with it, and allow it to pass through your body and mind is a first huge step. When you have had a history of trauma the emotional pain lives in your body and can surface at any time. Seek out someone who you can trust completely, to talk about what you’re feeling. Just because you’ve lived with the pain and can take it the doesn’t mean you have to suffer.
2.View Your Triggers as Spiritual Information. Triggers in the form of emotional reactions such as anxiety, anger or disappointment are not the enemy. They’re part of your spiritual guidance system and are there to alert you to any underlying trauma or emotional pain to be that needs to be healed. Refrain from judging them or yourself for having them come up.
Viewing such triggers as “just information” will help you transcend them. Like looking through a periscope in a submarine, lift yourself up and out of other people’s drama, reactions, or processes. To remain calm, tolerant, and patient, remember what the person has said or done is just information to guide you on your soul’s path. You can easily become stuck and end up defending yourself the more you react.
3.Reset to Raise Your Vibration. When you feel triggered by fear, anger, or resentment, you are operating from a lower vibration. Time to pause and to reset your emotional field and recalibrate your energy. Meditate, pray, walk in nature, talk to your angels, and connect with your spiritual guides. Not just once a day, but several times a day.
Tapping into love, joy, and gratitude elevates your energy; whereas fear lowers your vibration. The practice of gratitude plugs you into the high vibration of love and this is the anecdote for fear because where love exists fear does not persist. Like a short in an electrical wire, fear short circuits your vibration and zaps your power. The energy of love, joy and gratitude amplifies your energy and sustains your power from the inside, not from something outside of you. It enhances your health and well-being and this energy ripples out to others.
How do you know you have transcended being triggered by others? Especially those closest to you? When you no longer become upset or emotionally charged by something someone said or did, you are no longer triggered by them. You have truly transcended when you can think about this person and not feel an emotional charge. However, avoiding a trigger by not engaging with someone is different than not reacting to a trigger. When you avoid a person to bypass the possibility of being upset by them, you still have underlying emotional pain.
When you no longer feel the trigger and you decide not to be around the person anymore – you are evolving. You have said “no” to being treated in a way that is not acceptable and “yes” to how you want to be treated. This is being responsive and nonreactive.