Despite the pain it elicits, loss teaches us about the delicate balance, intensity, and richness of life. We cannot experience the pain of loss without first having experienced the joys associated with what has been lost. In the movie Shadowlands, poet Joy Gresham, in speaking about her impending death to author C. S. Lewis, expresses, “The greater the love, the deeper the sorrow and the longer it will take to work through it. That’s the deal.” The heartbreak that wounds us most deeply eventually leads us to greater enlightenment, blessing our lives with a more spiritual depth of life.
A few years back I was grieving a friend’s untimely death. I felt both a great love and a deep sorrow in my heart. However, that was the “deal” when I consciously entered into a pure loving partnership with her here on earth. Through our soul connection, I am reminded that our relationship transcends the physical level and energetically resides in the sacred space of soul and in me to transform my pain and loss into creation. I can best love, honor and respect our connection by transforming my grief into creation. Moreover, I can channel the energy unleashed by her death putting her powerful light to positive use. One way is to let that energy as love pour out to those I love, whose friendships I cherish and to the betterment of humanity.
Acknowledging the positive side to loss doesn’t numb its pain for it is the pain itself that opens you to deeper love, trust and spiritual healing. The pain lets you know to take precious care of yourself, to sit with your feelings and release them fully before you just move on. Time may ease the pain of loss, but it is being fully present with your heartache, rather than avoiding it, that is what self-healing is about and our path to transformation. Be gentle, kind and open yourself to transforming your emotional release into a positive, creative force for a higher good. You will see that when you emerge on the other side of your pain, you are stronger and lighter for all you have experienced.
Transforming our losses into creation allows us to let go of the past, better appreciate the present, and harness light energy to ride the crest of the tsunami in our consciousness toward a more positive future. It opens us to embrace our natural life cycles, accepting life as a series of births, deaths, and transitions that lead to personal transformation. It asks the question: “How will we live?” Embracing our losses permits us to face and experience the other side of grief, which is unconditional love and trust of ourselves. The surge of light force energy emanating from this pure love and trust empowers us to let go and transcend emotional pain and create a monumental shift in our lives.