“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined.” – Henry David Thoreau
To support our own transformation, we must invite into our lives an energetic support team-people who love us unconditionally, without judging, enabling, or interfering with our choices. Such an energetic support team, or Soul Team, consists of kindred spirits who encourage the full expression of our true being rather than our ego-driven identity or the roles we play to survive in the world. As such, they motivate us to let go, follow our hearts and co-create a more fulfilling future.
When building our Soul Team, we sometimes realize that people with whom we have had the longest or closest relationships, including some family members or friends, may not qualify as team members. For example, our spiritual growth triggers resistance or defensiveness within them because they are invested in having us stay exactly where we are. Our changes especially challenge those who are afraid to see they are not living up to their fullest potential. Although our own clarity can catalyze everyone in relationship with us to confront their own patterns, some may disconnect from us, project their feelings of fear or pain onto us, or blame us for the unraveling of their lives. People with whom we in turn are inclined to suppress our needs or dismiss our desires are not candidates for our energetic support team.
I have found that a Soul Team is often revealed when we are moving through a transition or dealing with a difficult situation-times when others tend to show their true character. This requires careful consideration of people we know to decide which ones will unconditionally endorse our choices for a more fulfilling future. First, observe your relationships to identify individuals who can serve the most supportive functions. Many support systems are set up to perpetuate the patterns of struggle, failure, victimization, or even illness. Instead, select healthy support systems comprised, for example, by such people as psychotherapists, spiritual guides, or soul-hearted friends who encourage your transformation. Second, be sure your intentions are positive so that the people you gather around you will assist in sustaining your well-being. Then work on maintaining your Soul Team by periodically adding or eliminating members in keeping with your spiritual progression.
To manifest our intentions, we have to let go of our expectations of being supported in any way that is conditional, even by family and friends. As we continually evaluate our relationships to refine this Soul Team, we have to surround ourselves with others who guide unconditionally and assist us in manifesting our hearts’ desires.