Many people who we come into contact with everyday have difficulty being accountable for own lives. Rather than take responsibility for their choices, they often become defensive, blame others, and/or play mind games trying to protect their own ego. People stuck in these toxic patterns can deplete our energies, drain our resources and are destructive to our lives. When we interact or are in relationship with them, we think we have to play the same games to defend or protect ourselves, yet this only leads to deeper confusion, more conflict, and erodes our true sense of ourselves.The best way to detach from people who engage in such negativity … [Read more...]
Transforming Loss into Love
"Earth has one angel less and heaven one more, since yesterday." - Nathaniel HawthorneDespite the deep pain it elicits, loss teaches us about the delicate balance, intensity, and richness of life. We cannot experience the pain of loss without first having experienced the joys associated with what has been lost. In the movie Shadowlands, poet Joy Gresham, in speaking about her impending death to author C. S. Lewis, expresses, "The greater the love, the deeper the sorrow and the longer it will take to work through it. That's the deal." Simply, As I embrace the untimely death of my beloved soul dog, Cammi, I feel both a great love and a … [Read more...]
Finding Peace in Turmoil
Life presents us with the opportunity to find peace in turmoil every day. In such moments, we can feel anxious, unprepared, and even a sense of futility when faced with an unexpected situation. We may be struggling with work, financial, health or relationship issues, feeling fatigue, energy drains and disappointment. This is when we have to first recognize the opportunity in front of us to let go of our expectations and "go with the flow." By trusting ourselves and our inner power, we can remain open to this positive flow of energy and move through any challenge with grace, ease and responsiveness. First, it's important that we accept any … [Read more...]
The Art of Loving Begins with Ourselves
"Those that go searching for love only manifest their own lovelessness, and the loveless never find love, only the loving find love, and they never have to seek it." - D. H. Lawrence As psychoanalyst and philosopher Eric Fromm states in The Art of Loving, "What matters in relation to love is the faith in one's own love; in its ability to produce love in others. We are only capable of knowing and caring for the other if we are also capable of understanding, caring, and knowing ourselves." In other words, the most powerful way to attract and experience great love, is to embody it. Being in relationship with another person requires us to … [Read more...]