“What is not love is always fear, and nothing else.” A Course in Miracles.
Come home to your heart, the seat of trust, spiritual truth, and tranquility. This is where trust in yourself and your divine source live. In fact, the lower vibration of fear cannot co-exist with the high vibe energy of trust in the space of your heart.
Opening your heart allows you to access your spiritual guidance system and develop a deep trust of yourself. Moreover, the quality of your life improves because you wake up each day with positive energy, inspiration, and greater joy.
Over the years, many of my clients have asked me, “How do I distinguish the voice in my heart from the voice in my head?” You can learn to differentiate the voice of your head (negative/fear-based) from the voice of your heart (positive/trust-based) by simply noticing the words or scripts you use to describe your everyday experience. It’s important to observe how you speak to yourself and if your voice is coming from your head or heart.
For example, you know when you’re in your heart by the quality of the energy. The voice of your heart is loving, kind, and guides you without judgment. It gives you an expanded view on your life, is present-oriented, and experiential. It whispers, “I know” instead of “I think,” “I trust” instead of “I believe,” and “I create” instead of “I wait.”
The voice of your head, on the other hand, is often harsh, critical, and judgmental. It provides you with a limited perspective on your life from the past or future. You are in your head when you hear yourself say: “I should, I have to, I’m afraid to, or I can’t.” You are in your heart when you say: “I trust, I feel, and I sense.”
Take a moment and reflect on a situation where you were faced with a challenge, obstacle, or difficulty. Did you react from your head (Why did this happen to me?) or did you respond from your heart? (What is this person or situation revealing to me about myself or my life?) How you react or respond to the things that happen in your life determines a life of fear or trust.
When you start to pay attention to your inner self-talk, you begin to notice your negative thoughts and how they can trigger fear. A negative mindset sees the worst case scenario or the glass half empty. It is reactive to others or situations. It shows up in fear-based beliefs, such as: “Be careful not to let your guard down,” “If you take that risk, you’ll get hurt,” and “Don’t confide in anybody, because you can’t trust them.” These fear-based scripts show you that you lack trust in yourself and your own experience.
It’s important that you learn to lead with your heart and then use your head. Focus on the positive energy emanating from your heart and simply thank the old negative thoughts for showing up, then release them. When you bypass your head, you become open to receive spiritual information through the heart center to guide you whether it’s a gut feeling, an “a-ha” moment, inkling, or an inner knowing. This heart-centered positive mindset takes conscious awareness and with awareness comes the ability to shift from fear to trust.