John Lennon’s inspirational song “Let It Be” speaks of a spiritual principle that can profoundly change our lives. As a practice, letting it be flows from an open loving heart where we trust the divine unfolding of our lives. It moves us beyond letting go for it starts with zero expectations of how someone or something “should be” that only sets us up for disappointment-even with ourselves. It encourages compassion, forgiveness and acceptance of ourselves and others no matter what our journeys may be.
For me, letting it all be is letting my entire life be without judgment and with forgiving the past. This hit home for me recently when my brother, Jim who had been doing some genealogy work on our family tree sent me new information about my mother. Keep in mind that my mother has not been seen or heard from in over forty-seven years. She left us when I was eight years old and although I had completed a year long search for her in my twenties, I had never found any hint of her. It was if she vanished into thin air. So, when Jim wrote to me that he had found a link to a marriage application taken out in Cuyahoga County in 1968, two years after we last saw her, I was stunned, yet, hopeful that we may find her.
Pursuing this lead further, I asked a dear friend of mine, Mike and his partner, Dan, who is an expert in genealogy, if they would assist me in locating the documentation. Enthusiastically, they agreed and became part of my energetic support team. Team Deb. Within the past few weeks while I was on vacation, Mike went to the courthouse on my behalf. Serendipitously, he ran into an old colleague and she graciously located the document for him at no charge. Angels at work!
When I returned home from my vacation, I had a voice message from Mike wanting to get together. With document in hand, he met me for coffee and presented me with a copy of my mother’s marriage application and license. I was blown away just seeing my mother’s signature on the page and the fact that she had been in Cleveland before I moved here in 1983. It opened more questions than answers and I realized I’d been drawn to Cleveland for this purpose. Pursuing the lead like a cold case, Mike also validated the social security number I had given him for her and the information confirmed that she was still alive. Wow, this was exciting news to me as I had suspected that because of her drug addiction and mental illness that she was probably dead.
What followed for me were tears of joy instead of resentment, anger or hurt. Feeling at peace, I knew that the work I had done to forgive her had freed me from any negative charge or disappointment. I had “let my life be” without her which opened the space in my heart for love to reside. I loved her being no matter what she had done and to know that she was still alive was a bonus. Although I will continue the search to find her, I hold no expectations that if I do find her that she will even want to see me. For I am complete with our relationship and the purpose it has served in my life. Meeting her anew would begin a new relationship.
Letting it all be inspires me to let go of mind-control and lead with my heart as it whispers words of wisdom. Letting each day unfold perfectly guiding it with positive intentions and making the choices to align with this amazing journey is letting it all be.